Usually before I write about an issue, I will take a gander at what others have published. I'm fine restating what's already been said in a different way (it's hard to have an original thought in this day and age) but I tend to want to read supporting and counter arguments ... just to out of curiosity. When I did that for this post, I came across this "gem" (she says, in a drawl that is dripping with sarcasm): Top Ten Things that Make a Woman Threatening to Other Women. Fundamentally, the points made are pretty accurate but the suggestions the author makes to help your situation when you're the "offending" woman are just plain ludicrous. As if you should shelf your high heels, play dumb, be less beautiful, and not spend your own hard earned money....just to get other women to give you the time of day. Horse shit.
I will admit that I have been intimidated by another woman's beauty or intelligence in the past but I have ALWAYS recognized that the fault is mine and unless the person is unkind, I will find away to get over my insecurities. Otherwise, look at all of the relationships I would lose out on. And ultimately, we are all different and beautiful in our own way so what does it really matter? But if I have a moment of insecurity, others have LIFETIMES. Years of practice scowling at the pretty young girl in the office - "well....we all know how SHE climbed the corporate ladder don't we?!" Or maybe they point out that the intelligent woman is a snob....."listen to that uppity bitch!"
After enduring decades of judgment on sight - I.am.tired. I am perfectly willing to accept that there is such a thing as a first impression but I am also aware that WE ARE ADULTS. We should know by now that there is more to a person than what is on the surface...that if someone speaks her mind or offers an opinion, she's not attempting to threaten your livelihood or overshadow your own voice....she simply has her own voice. So sluts, smarties, bitches, and babes - let's all just get over ourselves and be friends. And if we can't be friends, ya think we could just live and let live instead of sabotaging each others' happiness? Life would be so so so much sweeter that way.